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Things Moms Can't Say (and Definitely Should)

Unpopular mom opinions...yeah, not fun. Our contributor gives her refreshing take on what it means to be a "good mom" and what moms are afraid to say (and be honest about).

Last year I was sitting at a kid-sports-thing and was texting a girlfriend who was also sitting at a kid-sports-thing and we were commiserating about our mom commitments. At first it was the usual back and forth banter between moms, but then it turned serious; she told me it was suffocating her. We agreed to meet up (on her back patio, because, kids) for a glass of wine after sports things and discuss further.

Being a mom is an experience that varies for everyone. As a mom of two kids, ages 11 and 12 years old, I’ve met loads of moms. Moms like to talk about being moms and because of this, I’ve heard tons of mom testimony, and they are all different. For the most part, mom testimony is positive. It includes all of the pride and joy they get from their little pride and joys. I see women in my mom network posting their highlight reel in social media to back up their mom testimony. And for the most part, I believe them. I truly believe there are women who LOVE being a mom and find joy and fulfillment in every single moment of their mom experience.

I am not one of those moms.

It has taken me 12.5 years to be okay with this. I’m just not that mom. Does it mean I love my kids less than "Joyful Mom"? HECK NO. I would mama bear so fierce for my kids, I am their biggest cheerleader, we have fun sometimes, and we have a pretty great relationship. BUT, I find the day-in-day-out minutiae of parenting life-sucking and mundane. There is no joy for me in refereeing fights over who gets the last fruit snack in the pantry. Getting up and having to watch "Shark Boy and Lava Girl" on a Saturday morning is not my idea of an ideal start of the weekend. Even somet